3 Things I Wish Every Girl Would Know.

1. You Are Beautiful
        We all have insecurities, it is natural for us to have them. I'm insecure about a lot of things: my nose, my thighs, my hands, and my tummy, to name a few. Long story short, I went through an eating disorder not too long ago and I wish for nobody to go through that. You are worth so much more than harming yourself to look "beautiful." To be honest with you, there is no exact definition for beautiful. Sure, we all have an idea of who we think is beautiful (for example: i find Rihanna the most gorgeous woman on the planet), but no one is perfect. We all have flaws and that makes us all beautiful. We hear this all the time but it's true, It's what's on the inside that is beautiful. I want every woman and girl to look at herself and say "I look beautiful." Same goes for boys and men.
        My favorite movie since I can remember is The Princess Diaries and I found that what Joe quotes to Mia goes perfectly with this. It is an Eleanor Roosevelt quote and this correlates perfectly with what I am trying to say. No one can tell you you are not good or beautiful enough unless you let them. That is why it is called self-esteem for a reason, only you have the power to hurt yourself.

               

2.  Don't Worry About Boys!
        If you are fifteen, twenty six or fifty seven, do not focus your life around boys and men. If you're young, like me, don't stress too much for a boyfriend or significant other. Majority of us don't know who we are and are not even close to loving ourselves completely. You need to know and love yourself  before you can know and love someone else. If you're older, your time just hasn't came yet. Maybe you are still in the phase where you don't know and love yourself and need to find that or Maybe your Prince(ss) Charming is still out there trying to find you. I'm not saying don't have a relationship or be in love, I am saying don't only strive for that. Think of your dreams and passions and let the boys (or girls) fall into place Don't let a boy change the way you think or feel. Wear clothes for you, Pick careers that you want to do, Don't just do something that could potentially affect your whole life for some boy. If he truly loves you then he would not try to control you.

        My Icon For This is Larrisa from The Carrie Diaries: 

                 

3. Don't Let ANYBODY Tell You You Are Not Good Enough
          This one is an extremely important one. Do not let anybody tell you that you are not good enough, that your dreams are worthless, that you can't do something because you're a girl, don't take that shit from anybody not even yourself. You are good enough, you can do everything you want and your dreams are worth so much.
          Just listen to Selena Gomez and The Scene's song Tell Me Something I Don't Know. That sounds pretty childish right? Wrong. The song has such a good message and it's a total jam to be honest. I want to be apart of the fashion industry and this whole song basically describes me when people tell me i'm not going to make it. I am a firm believer in if you can dream it you can achieve it.

         

GIRL POWER!

I am a feminist. No, I am not afraid to say that. I don't know why anyone would be afraid to say that, actually. Feminist are people who believe in the equality of all genders politically, economically, and socially. How is that bad? Contrary to the popular belief, you do not have to be a woman to be a feminist. If you support the equality of the sexes then you are in fact a feminist - even if you don't think so.

So many people have this misconception that feminist are people who hate men and want women to take over the world - so we can kill all the men in the planet. I am a female and I can assure you that I love men and would not ever want to do that. What feminist want to do is actually help the world. We want to create a society that gives equal rights to everyone.We want to be able to have a say in not only the world but ourselves. We want to make our own choices. Being a girl, it absolutely sucks being put down all the time because of my gender. Instead of saying things like "you can't do that because you are a girl" start saying "you can do that because you are a girl." It is the 21st century time to stop treating women like they are only here to cater to men's needs and let them live.

I know many may believe this is wrong because of traditions and/or religion. I believe in God and I believe her created men and women equal in his eyes. Neither are better nor stronger in any aspect to him. I am not saying that it is wrong for men to do things for women - as in, pay for her dinner or open her door - it is honestly not a bad thing it is considered quite gentlemanly and polite but it is not required at all.

Some of Pop Culture Icons who I consider feminist include: Beyoncé, Miley Cyrus, Cara Delevigne, and of course Spice Girls' Ginger Spice. These women stand up for who they are and don't hide it. Beyoncé has numerous songs about girl power and being a woman, such as: Run The World(Girls), Best Thing I Never Had, Grown Woman and ***Flawless. No matter how much Miley Cyrus is constantly critized for being a slut she still does her thing and doesn't let anyone tell her who she is and should be. Cara Delevigne is apart of the Free The Nipples Movement which basically says look we both have the same body part except for women have more breast tissue so stop calling us sluts for exposing it. And as of Ginger Spice, well this gif speaks for itself: 

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All I'm saying is that we don't want to steal men's spotlight of being powerful and strong - we want to share it with them.

“Feminist: A person who believes in the social, political and economical equality of the sexes. ” - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie